Every girl has plans for marriage and studies. At the age of 23, mostly girls do face this situation when their parents want to start searching a life partner for them. In fact, parents concern is right because marriage is not a one day play that you meet someone through social networking marriage websites or newspapers and then decide to get married in a month or so. But what do girls of my age think about marriage?
Most of the girls get engaged at the age of 23-25. Some of them have convinced their parents, some of them have yet to convince. And the third category goes to the girls who are still single.
Even if we consider all the scenarios, what does a girl think when her parents ask her about marriage. Several questions came into my mind. I ask myself, whether I am prepared to get married to someone or not. How can I trust someone so easily? Will I be able to handle those situations of life? What about my career? Will I be able to bear the change that happens in a girl’s life after marriage?
It is not that I doubt myself on that but it’s just that when is the right time to take the responsibilities. Girls who get married early and are able to manage their career and their home pretty well are really strong. I appreciate them a lot. But is it necessary that everyone can handle it so well. I asked this question to my mom, and she said life will teach you these lessons. When you have someone in your life, he will support you in every sense. She answered or at least tried to answer my questions in this way.
Preparing yourself for marriage is important coz your life will not be completely yours. It will include someone else, their families, and their relatives. You need to take care of everyone. You will enter into an entirely new world where you will mould yourself into someone else’s life. So you should be prepared enough to imagine this change. This doesn’t mean that a guy’s life doesn’t change. His life also encounters something like this. He has to take care of you. He needs to take your responsibility. He becomes the head of the house suddenly. So the change comes to both sides and it depends how both of you cater this. So this shows how mature you both are. How much understanding and trust you people develop. Now the second question is trust. This is something every girl, who thinks of having an arranged marriage, asks herself. So did I. This depends how easily you trust people. How good you are at judging people. But what my mom said that trust develops with time. Then I asked her, how I can trust someone by just meeting him once or twice. She said you don’t need to trust anyone at first. You should not either. The point is you need to be good at observation when you meet him for the first time. And you need to judge people. This is something I am actually scared of. This is because we see lot of cases when you trust someone and other person betrays your trust. This is not specific to guys’ even girls do that. So, then I asked, how to judge people? And the answer comes, again comes with experience and maturity.
The most important question that I asked my mom was what about my career. If I am a working woman, I will work all day long and stay almost 12 hrs away from home. How will I manage my work and my family both? To this, my mom replied that every girl in this world has to manage it and I won’t be the first one. Then I asked her what if I want to study further? How will I manage them? Or what if I need to stay away from my family for my studies after marriage, and then what’s the point of committing? And who would like to marry someone who will be staying away from him for at least 1-2 years? To this she said every man who loves his wife will take care of these things. He will handle your situations of life as well. Even after such a huge conversation, I am sceptical of thinking about marriage. I see a lot of people falling into love and getting married. Some of them face problems when their parents don’t agree and they convince them. They face this challenge and do their best to stay together. I feel nice and happy for them. But even if I have to think of a love marriage, will I have the same questions that I have right now. May be yes. In fact, yes.
Every person has a time when he/she becomes mature. It is not necessary that we need to grow old to be mature but it is necessary that we need to face the situations of life to become mature. And that’s when we should think of marriage. Your maturity doesn’t depend on your age at all. You should assess yourself well before getting into marriage. Someone said a quote to me which deeply touched me and answered all my questions “You should be close to yourself before getting closer to someone”.
